So, You Want to Be a Better Husband?

David N Johnson

David N Johnson

I'm asked all the time, how can I be a better husband? I've been asked that question by men of all ages in marriages of all lengths. I've had husbands in good marriages and husbands in bad marriages ask me that very same question. So, I wrote a short eBook (15 pages or so) that outline the 5 principles that every husband should know. Want to be a better husband and create the kind of marriage that both you AND your wife want? Click the button below to get my FREE guide.  

Is Your Marriage Not Where You'd Like it to Be?

Life happens. Things get in the way. Work is demanding and bills are always in need of paying. It's easy to neglect your marriage because she knows you love her, right? Right? Lack of intention is the single biggest contributor to an unhappy marriage. If you want to be a good husband you must be intentional with your love. Put in the effort required and reap the benefits of a happy marriage:

  • Better Immune System (Seriously)
  • Better Sleep
  • Strongest Predictor of Life Satisfaction
  • Longer Life
  • Improved Mental Health
  • Higher Income

Mindfulness is key to longevity in a marriage. Men who are looking to become better husbands must understand that in order to do so that they must create the kind of marital environment that puts the relationship above all else. Even before being right!

Husbands, know this to be true: If your marriage is failing, it's totally within your power to fix your part of the reason why. And in doing so, your wife will be inclined to fix her part. It all starts with you and your desire to have a lasting marriage and to become a better husband. 

Husband and wife holding hands

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Don't Be Another Divorce Statistic

Divorces in the United States have been on a decline, which shows that there is an increase in secure relationships, and that's always a good thing. However, while divorces are decreasing, so are marriages. What does that mean? It means that the younger generations (millennials and older gen z) are spending more time cohabitating before getting married, many of which never do.

What that really means is that while divorces are on a decline, breakups are not. Many times, lengthy cohabitation involves children and while there doesn't appear to be much research on the topic of cohabitating parents, single parents make up over 40% of all households in the US with over 75% of children who are born to unwed couples no longer live with both of their biological parents by fifteen.

Good Husbands Understand They Can Make a Difference

Relationships are hard. Many times couples feel that it's easier to give up than it is to reconcile their differences and make it work. Think back to the beginning and how your wife made you feel BEFORE you proposed. Would you like to feel that way again? What if I told you that it's totally within your power to make it so? Well, consider yourself told. Get the FREE eBook HERE.

Divorce doesn't have to be the end of your story. There are things that can be done. You may have to look inward and make a few changes, but what is that compared to a lifetime of happiness with the woman you love?

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What Married Couples Want

% of married adults who say __ is 'very important' to a successful marriage*

Having Shared Interests 64%
Satisfying Sexual Relationship 61%
Sharing Household Chores 56%
Shared Religious Belief 47%
Having Children 43%
Adequate Income 42%
Agreement on Politics 16%

* Source: Pew Research

If you're here, odds are you're a married man looking for ways to become a better husband. First and foremost, get the D-word out of your vocabulary. Focus on the things you can change and keep in mind that you can't change your wife, but you can influence her to want to follow your lead.

You do that by focusing on some of the things that interest her and getting involved. Show your wife that you care enough to do what she likes. 64% of married adults say that having shared interests is very important to a successful marriage. What are some things that your wife does that you can have a genuine interest in?

Along those same lines, 56% of married adults say that sharing household chores is important to a successful marriage. As a husband, are you sharing in the chores that need to be done around the house? Just like with shared interests, this is an easy way to create a healthy marriage.

At the end of the day, a happy, healthy marriage is all about your level of intentionality. Make your marriage a priority and stop letting life get in the way; there is nothing worse than making your wife feel lonely when you're both in the same room.

So, if you're goal is to be a better husband, just make it a priority. Sound simple? It is. Show your wife that your marriage is important, and she will meet you halfway.

What Becoming a Better Husband Means

At Committed Husband we work with a lot of husbands, empowering them to create stronger marriages. Many of them come to us, wanting to be a better husband, but just aren't sure where to begin. 

Many are upset because their marriage is failing, and have given up hope that they can make a difference. However, that's just not true. As a husband, you have the power to make a change in your marriage. Even if your wife has already checked out, there are things that you can do.

Don't lose hope. As long as you have the desire, we can show you the how.

Never Stop Chasing Your Wife

husband carrying wife

If you're looking for ways to become a better husband then you are on the right path. Many times, married men get so focused on the problem that they forget to look for the solution. 

At Committed Husband we're all about the solution: you. Yes, you! The husband. It's within your power to change the trajectory of your marriage. All it takes is a little know-how, and that's where we come in. 

5 Principles for a happier, healthier marriage, a better life, and harmony with the woman you love

What are you waiting for? It's FREE. However, before you download it, remember this day. This is the day that you decided to become a better husband, the kind of husband that's intentional about his marriage, his wife, and their life together